Summer Holidays as separated parents
7 July 2016 by Charlotte Knappett
It is again that time of the year when the classroom doors close and thousands of children express their delight in having six weeks off to spend time visiting friends and making memories with their family.
However, this can be one of the hardest periods for parents who have recently separated as they experience their children’s first summer holiday as separated parents. For many couples, the pain of a separation may mean that they have overlooked the fact that their children are adapting to their parents being separated and having to spend time with them and extended families individually. For parents the practical difficulties of child care arrangements and time off work can become even more complicated.
At these times it is particularly important that parents aim to communicate, not only with each other but with other family members as best as they can about the needs of their children and how they can now effectively co-parent.
Communication is not always easy at such an emotive time but it is key to ensuring that plans are made and that parents are updated as to where their children are and what they are doing. Without this there can be uncertainty, arguments and disharmony for all. So now is the time (if you have not already done so), ahead of the summer holidays, to make plans for both you and your children. Try to plan in advance rather than leaving things until the last minute to allow for days out, family events and even trips away. Not only will this provide your children with a routine but also allow you to know what days you will be spending with your children and what days you have free to work or even to make your own plans with friends. A calendar up on the wall with the summer holiday arrangements can be helpful.
Finally, your children can be more aware of what is happening than you think so put yourself in their shoes. Take time to consider their wishes and try to incorporate this in your plans with the other parent. Children don’t want to experience their parents arguing. They are children and they want to have fun and enjoy their time off school and the sunshine, if any!
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